week-end report, week 05, 2013

Taking my shot at describing, capturing for future, further access, what I learned this week—whether I really understood it, or not.

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[1] it's all relative

The other day a client who has several businesses told me some good news about one of the newer ones: a sign of progress -- growth -- and I swear I felt each cell in my body literally swell with pride the way you do when a kid in your life does something new, crosses a threshold. I felt it. And then recognized what I was feeling; it was automatic. And unexpected.

I haven't been working with them all that long, and it's not as if I physically go to the space, or know the people there, just management, and lightly. I don't, in my mind, think of us as related. 

Apparently, my body does. 

[2] I wonder what they expect

Even with agreements in writing, I wonder if this is what s/he expected.

No...I don't actually. Mostly, I am occupied with what's in front of me, with what I think needs to be done just now.

I don't much step back to see if we're still going in the same direction, or if it's the one we thought we were on. Or, if now that time has passed, ground's been covered, experience shared, and we've gained familiarity, gotten a look at the inner workings, and maybe changes of mind or focus have taken hold—do we even want to go in this direction, much less is it the same?

Usually, it's when someone's disappointed, that's when you get a sense of how close or far you are to meeting each other's expectations.

[3] what do you think I'm thinking?

Most of us, most of the time, know so little of each other, and based on that, we understand each other.

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week-end report, week 03, 2013

Taking my shot at describing, capturing for future, further access, what I learned this week—whether I really understood it, or not.

week 03, 2013
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[1] if it's obvious you're not getting it

Note to self:
If it's obvious, you're not getting it.

You're breaking off a piece of it—focusing on what you like, on what you worry about, what you recognize as familiar, or wish would just stop.

You're trying to get in and out fast.
Probably trying to skip the getting in altogether.

You're seeking out solid. ground. objects. answers.

Why is that?

[2] what would it be like to practice?

What would it be like to practice?
I don't know. I don't think I've practiced anything ever.

Maybe for a moment here and there, but in general, even if it's fun, it's a test, a task, a performance. I'm doing it. I know what I'm doing, or know that I don't know what I'm doing, or what I'm doing is learning how to do it. But there is a how to do it

...doing vs. practicing.

Not totally clear on the distinctions between doing vs practicing, but I think even my yoga practice is more doing than practicing.

[3] getting it right

That might be the difference between doing and practicing, how much of your mind, body and heart's attention is fixed on the idea of getting it right. 

Not that getting it right or getting it done can just be tossed out. Just wondering what it be like if some of the time, I was practicing rather than doing.

Then again, it's all practice.

Regardless.

For the next thing.

For how you are in the next thing, in the next now.

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week-end report, week 51, 2012

Taking my shot at describing, capturing for future, further access, what I learned this week—whether I really understood it, or not.

week 51, 2012
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[1] the choice of, not between

From the book, The Opposable Mind, the idea of considering options, including distasteful ones, as sets of factors that can be material for something new, something other than an either-or proposition...something best of both worlds—something better.

Everything is material.
It's what you make of it.

[2] questions are not accusations

Wait a sec before answering. Before deciding what that question really means. Leave room for us to just not be in sync. What he's asking—what's on your mind. Two different things. Maybe a lot different. Leave some room for that. Try just answering the question asked.

[3] Transition begins when?

I can't stop thinking ahead. I'm so used to it—most of the time I don't know when I'm doing it.

Do you?

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week-end report, week 44, 2012

Taking my shot at describing, capturing for future, further access, what I learned this week—whether I really understood it, or not.

week 44, 2012, 
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[1] being in charge takes more energy

When you're in charge, you're responsible for both ends of the conversation. Not that the person reporting to you if not accountable for his/her end, but since it's your vision being executed, it's on you to maintain momentum and on you to bring out what's needed in your counterpart.

It's not easy. Some days, it will drain you.

And when they step up, meet you half way, and then some, and hold the floor for you—it will be
so worth it.

Meanwhile, it's on you to maintain momentum. And, to keep bringing out what's needed in them and in yourself. In between steps—because it's not a linear progression; things change, go up and down and sideways—in between steps, it's up to you to maintain momentum.

[2] all business relationships are professional development workshops

Be it one encounter, occasional client-vendor, colleague day-in-day-out: all business relationships are professional development workshops.

[3] all personal relationships are personal development workshops

Be it a first date, Facebook friends, close family, neighbors, lovers, husband-wife, your kids: all personal relationships are personal development workshops.

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week-end report, week 43, 2012

Taking my shot at describing, capturing for future, further access, what I learned this week—whether I really understood it, or not.

week 43, 2012
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[1] reverse-engineering what matters

When sorting out the value of something, think in terms of when it's over. The activity, the relationship, the company — when this chapter ends (if it ends) will it have been worth it? If it's quantifiable, how much is it worth? Quantifiable, or not: how will you value it?

[2] explain it to me like I'm a five year old

At most, six. Keep it that simple. Take the time it takes. I'm thinking of the six year old who's got the floor and is not sugar-highed and hyper on stage, I mean the slow-talking, suprisingly lyrical kid getting down to basics, not yet in a perennial rush to get on to the next thing. Explain it to me like that.

[3] there is no such thing as off the books

I know I take things very literally and not everyone does. And, that maybe that's something to reconsider. Still, I can't be moved here. Gray is fine. I like gray. I won't say that anything is necessarily black and white. It's still not off the books. 

You have to identify and account for all of it. One way or another.

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